Divorcing Anxiety : Stop Worrying about Worrying

After a divorce, I divorced life as I knew it. It wasn’t just my relationship that wasn’t working for me -so much of the way in which I was experiencing the world was making me miserable. I divorced it all. In traditional wedding vows we state ‘ till death do we part’ I have realised now that even though I didn’t die – a version of me did. The old me is dead. I am in a phase of my life where I have taken full accountability for who I am and how I show up in the world. Sounds empowering right? It is – but it also sucks in a lot of ways. Questioning my own beliefs and observing the reactions I fire off with isn’t always pretty. Im facing some hard truths. There are moments where I have breakthroughs and feel a rush of freedom and then there are moments when I feel shame.  Its all part of the human experience. Im relating what I am going to to weight training. In order to build a muscle, to make it stronger, it needs to be broken down and torn apart and then refuelled. That’s what I am doing – breaking down my barriers and unconscious beliefs and rebuilding my sense of self and the way I show up in the world.

In this episode I take a deep dive into how I am dealing with separating myself from anxiety and building a new relationship with it.

If you are someone that experiences anxiety, here is what I have personally found to be useful in the moment that anxiety is gripping me.

1. Stop. Observe the anxiety.

2. Take 3 deep breaths.

3. Ask yourself ‘why am I feeling like this’ and trace the feelings, to the fear, to the beliefs that have generated that fear. Understanding why you are experiencing anxiety allows you to be kind, loving and nurturing to yourself.