Should I fill my own cup first? (Does it come with a side of guilt!?)

Anyone that I have ever worked with has in some way expressed the difficulty in finding a balance between personal fulfilment & the obligations we have to those that rely on us.

In 2019 the messaging that we are bombarded with implies that we need to put our own individual happiness first. We need to fill our own cups. We should focus fiercely on our own goals and disregard the ‘noise’ around us. However, at the same time – we know that for the majority of us, we relish in the opportunity to contribute, add value and serve others.

People say that they value family, friendships, community. How to we mediate these two opposing messages? How do we find the happy medium? Do I serve myself or those around me?

How much am I allowed to put myself first before it becomes a disservice to those that rely on me?

When the answer to that question is unclear – we begin to burn the candle from both ends.

Burn out becomes inevitable.

In facing this dilemma, I have reframed my own self talk and thinking. I believe that in setting clear boundaries and making certain needs a priority, I am in fact setting myself up to be able to contribute with more energy to the people that need me most. My commitment to my self is in part a commitment to my family. This has seen my motivation sky rocket.

On the days that I don’t feel like actioning intentions, I remember that my commitments serve a larger purpose. It’s not all about me. In developing the parts of myself that require growth, I am continuing to show up as the best version of myself for my partner and my son.

Participating in group sessions at the gym will have the same effect. Your energy in a group session will produce your results – but it is also essential for those around you. When we all choose to lift our spirits and give our best efforts – we elevate each other.

So this week – if you don’t feel like showing up to the gym, or you feel excuses start to creep up on you.. think about the bigger picture. Think about the individuals in that session that have become friends that are relying on you to give your energy to the collective. Think about the random stranger who is about to attempt their first session and will benefit from your encouragement. Think about the coach that has poured their heart and soul into programming.

Fill your own cup. Just keep in mind that it usually feels better to share than to drink alone.

#weteachourpassion